CELEBRATING MOMS

‘This is the toy of the year’ – reads the sign. It winds, twirls, turns and jumps said the shopkeeper. Imagine if they had to make a toy mom, how would we be. We would come in all different shapes, sizes, voices, be fashionable, or some would have an angry tone, some soft-spoken, some loud and most of all, I think all toy moms would be holding a big red heart.

Yes, it was that time of the year again – nope not Christmas or Thanksgiving, but Mother’s Day. In today’s world, I feel, any event or holiday is very commercialized with banners, ads, signs telling us what to do and how to celebrate that holiday.

Despite being commercialized, I feel Mother’s Day holds a special sentiment and attachment to it. No matter how old we are, that feeling of receiving a gift or something special done by the kids, just creates a mix range of emotions in our hearts. Tears well up on the corner of the eye, our hearts let loose of all the emotions at once and somewhere our mind justifies that what we have been doing as mothers is correct.

As moms, we put in all our effort behind our kids – either teaching them something, running after them, taking them to classes, feeding them and just having our lives revolve around them.

Sometimes, we yell, nag, or just give up. However, somewhere in their mind, the kids know that my mom is working hard for me and they do appreciate it.

This mother day, my kids overwhelmed me by planning a surprise breakfast and ordering chocolate covered strawberries online with the help of their dad. I was quite surprised by the girls who were able to keep their secret to themselves and did not disclose it though they were tempted too.

This Mother’s Day, lets remind ourselves, that we are unique. Every mom has her own personality, characteristics, and different methods of raising their kids. There is no right or wrong way.

In today’s society, as moms we are pressured to follow other moms and if we do not, we may be outcasts or looked on as a bad mom. However, why should we confirm to societies norms?

Ponder on the fact that how many times have we felt the need to follow other moms.

Each mom knows what is right or wrong for their kids and their goal is to raise a well-rounded individual. Then why do moms tend to compare themselves to other moms. Initially, you may have to swim against the tide, but do not be afraid because your child’s interest is first and no one can judge you as right or wrong.

However, this does not mean that you do not share ideas or activities of your kids with other moms. In fact, you should hear stories of other moms and share your stories too, but just remember that the final call to decide your child’s growth is on you.

For instance, in lot of different cities across the country, it generally tends to be that if few moms are making their child do an activity such as drawing class, then the whole group of moms will also follow blindly. However, if you take a step back and question yourself whether your child needs drawing class at this point in time and will they benefit from it – you will have a clear answer as to what to do best for your child.

As moms we are meant to be unique. Then lets stay unique and pass on this uniqueness onto our kids. This is why the toy industry has not been able to make a toy mom because no mom is the same as another mom.